If you have been following me for any length of time, you know that I do not like the traditional stereotype of what a mom “should be”. The cool thing about the time we live in is that we are able to be so much more that we used to. It’s ok for us to be athletic, crafty, studious, a career woman. The problem is that women often are pretty harsh on other women. We have come so far with feminism but still like to pigeonhole what a person should be.
I have an Instagram account (you should follow me, wink, wink). I follow mostly fitness and healthy cooking people. One thing have noticed is how often women comment on the images making incredibly rude and unsupportive comments.
A picture of a woman with ripped abs and not so little chest had the following comments;
“I like my curves, that’s just gross”
“I would never get fake boobs like that”
“I wish I looked like her”
An image of a muscular woman:
“That’s just nasty”
“real women have curves”
“She looks like a man”
A stay at home mom posts a picture of her family stating she loves staying at home:
“you are so lucky, I wish I could stay at home”
“Go feminisim! Way to throw that away!”
A working mom posts a picture of how she’s tired and doesn’t have time for cooking:
“you should be at home with your kids”
“Your kids are suffering by you working”
It seems that no matter what we do and how far we get, there’s a person there to judge. My question is, who cares? You aren’t the one with the muscles, the one staying at home, the one working. Ok, maybe you are. Maybe it was easy for you to juggle staying at home and now you are struggling to work and run a household. That doesn’t mean it’s easy for Sue to be a stay at home mom. Yet we comment so quickly on how much easier it is to work or stay at home.
Can we just respect that we each have a different path in life that might not be right for us, or have different challenges? Let’s not put each other in those predesignated roles in what something is supposed to be like. I hope this post hits home with someone out there. To be honest, this was supposed to be a post about the stereotype of long distance runners not lifting heavy. I have pictures and everything! This little post took on a life of it’s own. I’ll still post the pictures and only those of you that finishes this post will understand. My friend runs a sub 3:30 marathon and I so far am at 3:57. Yet we both lift heavy. Another stereotype.
Has there been a time when you judged someone else or maybe you were judged?
Thanks for reading!